• Feminista Jones Is Kind Of A Big Deal

    Feminista Jones is kind of a big deal. So much of a big deal that, as a lead in for the @nbrbooks discussion of her new book (Push The Button) tonight at 9pm, I had to talk to her about sex, feminism, BDSM, erotica, and Black culture. Because we’re all adults here. I hate myself…

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  • A Dark Girl On Light Girls

    “When did you learn to be okay with being a brown skinned woman?” This question appeared in my Ask.fm mailbox and kind of took me aback, mostly because it’s premised on the idea that at some point I wasn’t okay with it. Or that perhaps hating your skintone is part of what you go through…

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  • Roxane Gay Is Kind Of A Big Deal

    The #NBRB book club (I’ll let you consult Google for the acronym’s meaning) uses Twitter to discuss books written by some of the best and brightest. A few months back, the club set its sights on Roxane Gay’s Bad Feminist. I had the opportunity to interview Roxane for the inaugural “Kind of a Big Deal”…

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  • I Tried To Get Mad About VH1's Sorority Sisters. (And I Failed.)

    I was sitting at my desk yesterday and my friend sent me a GChat message. “Are you in the office today?” “Yeah.” “I need to ask you something.” “Okay.” “What’s your extension?” I gave it to her and her name popped up on the caller ID. I answered, though I wasn’t sure what she was…

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  • The Problem With Girls Like Lena Dunham

    There are a lot of reasons not to like Lena Dunham. The way she’s chosen to cast Girls isn’t one of them. Dunham is one of those people most folks either love or hate; she’s seated squarely in the cross hairs of many writers of color. Personally, I don’t really care for her writing, which is…

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  • Thug Kitchen's Brand Of Technicolor Blackness

    Since I’m not a foodie (Popeye’s, anyone?) I don’t know that I’ve given Thug Kitchen enough consideration to really think about the once-anonymous creators of the blog and its screwball blend of profanity, hoodisms, and quinoa. I suppose that passively, I believed that Thug Kitchen was created by some shea butter slathering, Trader Joe’s reusable…

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  • Adult R&B Isn't Dead. It's Just Having A Mid-Life Crisis (And So Am I)

    My regular rotation of music rests firmly planted somewhere in the 1990s, with pinches of the 1980s and beyond. When I cue something up on Songza? “Essential ‘90s R&B,” “‘90s R&B Wake-Up Call,” or “This is How We Do It: R&B Dance Party,” are the playlists of choice. I don’t deviate too much from a…

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  • On Being A Little Tired Of Being The "Safe Black Friend You Talk To About Race"

    I was a junior in high school when a teacher came over to a group of us at lunch looking for one of our classmates. With four grades of students capped at no more than 100 each, we were a small school of folks who knew each other by name. In the liberal granola-crusted feel-goodism…

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  • For Bougie Black Girls Who Appreciate 'Anaconda'

    Let me just start by saying that I really enjoy Nicki Minaj’s ‘Anaconda’ video. Maybe even a little too much. I ran it back six times after the first watch. I credit that to some level of much-needed escapism with all that’s been going on in the news in the past few weeks. Like manna…

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  • The Gospel of P*ssy Prosperity, Explained

    In last week’s piece about the Universal He Fine/He Ain’t Shit Matrix, I referenced The Gospel of Pussy Prosperity. I received a lot of follow up from folks curious about it. I sat down with my sister-friend Ashleigh J. (@filthycharm) to get answers. So Ash. The people want to know. What is the philosophy behind Pussy…

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