YOU GUYZZZZZZZ!!! I love you all!

I haven’t watched this video either. Reading about it is evocative enough for my sensibilities and I’ve got to protect my sanity. But like the author, my heart is warmed about the prospect of the survival of empathy and humanity in our world by the testimony of the 17yo and her little cousin. Sweet, tender young…

The Kingdom of Benin was in Nigeria and home to the Edo.

All her children have a black father. I’m no proponent of monogamy, but in conjunction with everything else, that’s very telling, and honestly, disturbing. 

This calls to mind a really heartbreaking thread I read on Twitter recently about the racism biracial people (and I think some transracial adoptees replied too) face at the hands of their own families.

These feckless inbreds ain’t loyal, and are hardly royal. Big Liz knew that bloodline needed well...fresh blood, thus...enter Meg. When Meg realized this was just Get Out Pt. 2, she GOT OUT.

“We all know what the British press can be like, and it was destroying my mental health,” Harry recently told fellow Briton and evening talk-show host James Corden. “I was, like, this is toxic,” Harry continued. “So, I did what any husband and what any father would do—I need to get my family out of here.”

That’s how whiteness works.

Exactly. The sheriff identified with Long enough that he defaulted to being Long’s defender.

I had gotten my Bachelor’s, bought my house, and decided I was too old to have my own so I became a foster mother having set up my own supports. The last baby I got at 7 days old and loved her to pieces. When she was almost two, I tried to reconcile with my mother. At the first meeting, I gave my baby my purse to…

Oh, I’m saying a prayer that you’ll be alright and feel better soon! Don’t worry about answering my posts quickly unless you are offended by something I typed because I don’t TRY to do that or flame anyone; my all-caps & exclamation points are my emphasis only (like Elaine from Seinfeld!). Let me know THEN quickly so…

Yup. I swear, this is the strongest point I could ever make against beatings/spankings.

This. How deeply are we meant to think he loves regular folk if “he comes at his son like some random in the street?” Aren’t trust and esteem earned? To your other point, there was entirely too much venom for this to have been an isolated incident. We don’t experience a 180 deviation from our values just because we’re…

I saw this for what it was - our community’s baffling commitment to toxicity, abuse, and generational curses. Doing this to your child, even your grown adult child is not “being a man”. Doing this does not make you a good parent and in fact you are being a trash parent. Even if provoked, this child did not ask to be…

I have ended up in tears from seeing children slapped, knocked down, called foul names, etc. (Not just Black kids/parents) The look and demeanor those children carry is heartbreaking. A couple of times, I was able to intervene to give the mother a little space but most times, I know better than to say or do anything.…

Thank you so much for these insights! It is past time to stop believing that hitting, cursing and otherwise abusing children is the best way to discipline them. It is NOT. One excuse given for some Black parents being overly harsh is the constant threats to Black bodies and lives during slavery, Jim Crow and beyond.…

Thank you, Ishena. Years ago in college I remember seeing a sister verbally berate her 6 or 7 year old daughter on the subway. The child was silent but the look on her face broke my heart. I wanted to say something to the mother, or better yet, give the baby a hug, but I was young myself and felt powerless. Then, two…

I thought I was tired because of the time change, but it’s more from shit like this. 

At first I thought “at least they’re acknowledging the Civil War was about slavery” but then I realized it’s more likely they’re just done with dog whistles.

“It’s sad and scary that they think the lynching mentality they and their followers have, also exists in the heart of their opposition.”